D is for Denial to Discovery
A common reaction to any real or potential major change in one’s health or life often begins with denial. Denial of the very existence of said matter. Denial that this could, in fact, be happening to you. Denial that things could even potentially be as serious as even the best case scenario you can envision, not too mention the worst case scenario. Denial is often tied closely to bargaining, depression, and a whole host of other emotions. But once you work through this, and come out the other side, you can begin the process of discovery.
Discovery of what your life will bring with the newfound knowledge of your situation. Discovery of how you will go on, and continue to move forward. Discovery of how you may well be able to live a full and happy life despite, or in spite of, the event you initially felt would end life as you know it. Discovery can be a huge motivator in pushing through the challenges in front of you.
It doesn’t have to be a life-altering event or illness. Maybe you have a boss at work that is making your life a living nightmare. So much so that you don’t even want to get up to go to work each day. By determining what is important to you, and what you can do to impact the effects of any challenge, you can begin to discover how to conquer that challenge. Is this boss someone you can strike some sort of happy medium with to coexist? Or do you feel it is time for you to move on and find another job? By simply answering this question for yourself, you can begin to discover what you will need to do to move through, and eventually past this challenge.
In the aspect of a healthcare crisis, once you discover that you are still the same person, with the same qualities that made you a good person to start with, you will begin to find your way through. I’m not going to lie to you, it may not be easy. You may have to adjust your sights due to limitations on your health. But, you can work through it! When in doubt, feel free to seek out support resources, whether it be your physician, a professional counselor, or even your clergy. You don’t have to go through the process alone.
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